Frequently Asked Questions
Should I be embarrassed about seeking counseling?
Absolutely not! You are certainly not the first
person to encounter a challenge in life. Searching for a solution to a problem before it consumes you is smart and proactive!
Will you make me talk about things that I don't think matter (ie. my childhood)
The simple answer is 'no.' You will decide what you want the focus of counseling to be. What's the catch, you ask? Counseling is an opportunity for growth and growth is often uncomfortable. As much as I'm sure I'll enjoy working with you, I don't want you in counseling any longer than necessary, so I will not ask you to recount every detail of your life, but I will try to understand-and sometimes, challenge-what you believe and how you see the world. If you don't think my approach is working for you, don't ever hesitate to say so. I have many approaches and only want to do what works for you!
Will you "fix" me or my problems?
I wish it were that easy, but the truth is that I don't know any more about you or your life than you share with me. I am a neutral party with a different perspective (an outside view) of your situation. I hope that my perspective along with all of the technical mumbo jumbo I learned in school will help you press the reset button and get back on the path you want to be on.
Are my problems serious enough for counseling?
If your current situation is significant enough to cause you distress, it's enough for you to come to counseling. Some signs of distress are changes in your sleep habits, diet, or ability to focus. Another sign is your problem causing problems in other aspects of your life. For example, you're concerned about a situation at work, but you begin to notice that your fuse is shorter with your spouse. The point is that YOU decide when it's time to try something new.
With so many counselors available, how do I choose one?
Visit different websites and take advantage of free telephone consultations, but keep your approach simple. Does the counselor look or sound like someone you would want to talk to? Do they look or sound friendly? Does their tone (of voice or website) feel comfortable and relaxing to you? I know that these things do not seem very scientific (and probably judgmental) but trust your gut! If he/she looks boring or too technical to you, you will likely perceive them that way in person--and you probably won't be inspired to build a relationship with them.